the Raising Parents Manifesto
The story of Raising Parents… who we serve, why we seek changes, and the changes we aim to make…
Who is it for? Our grandchildren
Who is it not for? Our grandparents
What is it? Leadership for raising a generation without childism, and ending child abuse in our lifetime
"Like the vast majority of people, I have spent the vast majority of my energy stopping other people from noticing that I am THIS messed up, hoping they believe the lie, ‘I am only this messed up.’
"Part of that lie is covering up the mess made in me from living in a childist culture, where casual child abuse and neglect is completely normalized –to fit in. To promote the lie, 'I am only this messed up,’ I have to act as if 'the way I was raised and the culture I was raised in was only this messed up' were true.
"If I notice, or comment on, how truly messed up the culture and how I was raised is, I uncover my darkest fear: that people will find out how messed up I truly am, and how deeply that messed up, childist, abusive and neglectful this culture really is." ~Linda Clement, ThriveParenting coach
When a huge part of everyone’s security and sanity seems to be tied up in ‘this culture is us, this is what we do and do not do, this is who we are,’ stepping out of that mainstream to see it objectively is hard. It means risking rejection, isolation, abandonment, loneliness and the shocking loss of longstanding relationships.
It helps to have support, the wise counsel of folks who went before, and a burgeoning community of people out here on dry land with us, seeing the stream for what it really is and portaging to a different way of living for ourselves, our children and, hopefully in time, our world… a way of living that spans:
- how people need groups of people to thrive
- how stress really doesn’t make children into better adults
- where the realities of modern life from the digital world to education and economics are recognized as available to be used as we choose, not necessarily only how they have been used to date or what the designers thought they were making them for.
We are creating a responsive population that can more readily adapt to change than people who were raised in the mainstream of This is How It MUST Be Done, who do not spend their lives struggling and stressing over the inevitable shifts in the real world, as if holding back the tide were ever possible.
We seek to raise children who will be the movers and shakers, the change agents who adapt to the changes made to meet real human needs, centering people (and their real needs) rather than the imaginary needs of systems, ideas or traditions.
Come join our community on dry land, outside the mainstream, where we stumble and strive to a world kinder and more respectful of children...
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ABOUT Linda Clement
A lifelong learner, fascinated with psychology and human development, grandmother and mother of two grown daughters.
One-on-one ThriveParenting coaching for parents, as well as courses, webinars, workshops, and articles
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ThriveParenting coach Linda Clement's writing casually about this and that... parenting, kids, society, life...
Raising Parents can help
With 20 years of experience in ThriveParenttm coaching (and 30 years of helping parents thrive)
We can help you:
- understand your child's developmental stage
- understand how kids thing (differently from adults)
- work with your kids for everyone to succeed