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A more realistic view of the real Pros and Cons of Attachment-Style Parenting:

Cons: 1. Huge time suck: Think 'most of 20 years.' When I was asked why  spend so much time engaged this closely with my children, my simple answer was 'I like them, and I like spending time with them,' as true in their infancy as it was in their toddlerhood, teens and twenties. I wanted to care for them as much as I cared about them.

Pros: 1. Independent, adventurous, self-confident...~ 3. Strong trust, a benefit to me

As described in the companion post, there are a lot of feels happening in the lead-in to the holidays this year. Check that post out for how to deal with those feelings, before getting tucked into what to do about this year... With the world struggling to flatten the curve of the second wave of the pandemic, just as it threatens to become a tsunami, a lot of people are wondering 'what is going to happen to Christmas?' What indeed? As I wrote earlier, about alternative festive Halloween options, …

...what we're going through now:

What people struggle with, especially when they want something to be really special, 'for the season' or 'for the kids' or, probably most accurately, 'for making up for all the horrible experiences in this season in the past that still haunt' --what people really struggle with is that list of big emotions I started with:

• disappointment
• dread
• frustration
• the unknown (unknowable) future
• worry
• annoyance
• powerlessness

Love Puppies --not cute and scary obsession in teens and tweens A version of this post was originally published on Suite101, in 2005. Originally titled Love Puppy, cute but terrifying behaviour among tweens and teens Many young teens and even 10-12-year-olds, have experienced what it's like to have someone obsessed in love, following them, waiting for them, and fawning over them. Like puppies, these enamored crushes are not an uncommon experience. They are uncomfortable and awkward and many peo…

Concerns about physical distancing, spiking covid-19 case numbers, and kids encountering dozens (or hundreds) of other people's 'social bubbles' just to wear costumes and get candy have me thinking . . . again. Uh-oh.

How would you like a covid-safe, inside-the-guidelines party for you and your kids, that is cheaper and more fun than trick-or-treating?

Why is it that getting kids to do chores, help out around the house, and generally do what is asked of them, such a frustration for parents? Asking...

You can give orders that do not end in '?' without it ever being anything but respectful.